New Meaning of my Wedding Vows.

May 17,2007 was my wedding day. And though parts of it were not a happy time, when I saw my husband standing at the alter waiting on me on that Thursday night, I was so happy. I was starting my life with this person that I dated for three years.

 

I was excited to start my journey as his wife, but I had no clue what I was getting my self into.

 

When I got married, I had this illusion of something I say in the movies. I thought it was going to be all fun and games. We were going to love each other, and we were going to have a happy life and we were not going to have to go through anything.  

 

But that is a different topic for another time. 

When we got married, we had to say our wedding vows in front of everyone in the church.  

 

We stood and we said those vows proudly. In front of every one that was there and God, we said those vows. 

 

But who take their wedding vows seriously? 

 

For me, August 2023 those vows took on a different meaning.  My husband was in a bad car accident. For months he was dependent on me to help him do everyday tasks because the bones in my husband’s wrist was shattered and he had to get it repaired and so was his knee.  He had to wear a contraption to keep his knee stable. 

 

Things I normally must do for my patients as a CNA I found myself doing for my husband.  

 

And it was not an easy task. To find yourself one day having an independent husband to having to care for him was not easy.   I found myself in tears at times, because I could see the frustration he was dealing with. 

 

I was back and forth from the hospital to take my children back and forth to school, to the hospital to help take care of my husband. 

 

But God showed me something all the while he was in the hospital.  He brought back to me rembrace our wedding vows.  

 

“For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness an in health.” 

 

This part stuck out the most because no one thinks the day of their wedding that years down the road their lives will change, and I would have to remember them.

 

For me it was a little over 16 years of marriage when God had to show me the true meaning of my wedding vows. 

 

Those words are not just words. To me, they have a meaning behind it. 

 

Simply put, you will have good days, you will have bad days. You will have everything you need at times, and there will be days when you just don’t know. But in spite of everything you may have to go through, there should be love, honor and you should cherish one another, through everything. 

 

See, I had to step up and help my husband in ways I never thought I had to.  (Sickness and health, better or worse). 

 

I had to be a different type of wife. I had to be his hands and his legs when he could not use them.  I had to pray over my strong man when he could not pray for himself.  

 

I had to be strong in the Lord when I wanted to just throw in the towel and give up. But God gave me the strength to uphold my vows. 

 

 When I wanted to give up, God showed me this is what I signed up for that Thursday night all those years ago. 

 

God bless.